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Yes! You are Needy.

4/21/2015

 
Okay, so the title is a bit misleading, but now that I have your attention... it's true... you have needs! If anyone ever tells you that she doesn't need anything, ask her to hold her breath for ten minutes. The need for air will soon become her highest concern and will drive every aspect of her thinking and behavior.

That's what needs do. They drive us. Our need for food drives us to eat. Our need for companionship drives us to join and meet. Our need for love drives us to risk and become vulnerable.

What happens when we don't admit our needs or are unaware of them? They don't go away. They can't go away... they are needs, not just wants, after all! When we don't acknowledge our needs, they continue to drive us, but they drive us in unattractive ways. For example, if I'm not aware of my need for admiration, that need will drive me to get admiration in just about any way I can. I'll become the guy who annoyingly boasts of my accomplishments as I fish for compliments the size of whales. But, if I am aware of my need for admiration, I can develop healthy strategies to fulfill the need in appropriate ways such as excelling at something and enjoying the unsolicited comments of those who notice. I can tame the need as I get back into the driver's seat of my life.

Coaching can clarify your needs and give you methods for getting them met in attractive and deeply satisfying ways. And when your needs are met, life can blossom in unexpected ways! Let's talk.

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    Jim Merhaut, M.S.Ed., P.C.C.

    Jim is the founder and director of Coaching to Connect. He has three decades of experience in organizational and relationship work including coaching, consulting, non-profit CEO, program director, project manager, teacher, author and more. Jim holds a Master of Science degree in Education from Duquesne University with an emphasis in Adult Spiritual Formation.

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