Couple Time Matters... Yes... the Quantity too!

Published on: January 29, 2015

Couple Time Matters... Yes... the Quantity too!

There are many marriage experts who recommend that couples spend lots of one-on-one time together. Several experts have documented that fifteen (15) hours per week is the right goal for couple time if you really want your marriage to thrive. Don't put your marriage at risk by investing too much time in things that take you away from this essential one-on-one time with your spouse. While you spend time together, make sure you are doing things that enrich both of you. The time is important, but it is also important to use the the time wisely... do things you both enjoy. Talk respectfully to each other. Listen closely to each other. Touch each other lovingly. If you're not sure what to do for your spouse, ask him/her... your spouse knows. Finally, build in a system for success... once per week, ask each other, "How will we spend our grand 15 this week?" Map it out and follow through.

1 Comments

Sarah Nord - 11 years ago

I love this post. My husband and I have had a date night planned for tonight since the beginning of the month. I often feel bad when I have to turn down an invitation or say "no" to a request for help...those invitations and requests have been really tempting this month and have almost resulted in a canceled date night. Just last night we had this conversation: "Well, we can help out that person Friday and just move our date night to Saturday..."

...we ultimately decided to follow through with our planned date night because we remembered your advice that our 1:1 time is essential. We could not be happier with the decision! We are slowly learning to feel more comfortable with eliminating distractions so we can really make time for couple time.

Signing off & prepping for date night!!! :)

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Jim Merhaut, M.S.Ed., P.C.C.

Jim is the founder and director of Coaching to Connect. He has three decades of experience in organizational and relationship work including coaching, consulting, non-profit CEO, program director, project manager, teacher, author and more. Jim holds a Master of Science degree in Education from Duquesne University with an emphasis in Adult Formation.